75 Realistic Tips for Traveling with a Partner
||Write an IOU to the kitty
We use IOU's in our kitty. My tip is when I travel
with my sister or a close friend we make a kitty where
we donate the same amount of money and trade keeping
it safe. This helps so that only one person has to
pull out money when paying for meals, cabs, etc. instead
of two. This is much safer and also keeps things simplier.
When the kitty runs low we toss in another equal amount.
When one of us wants to purchase a trinket, they write
an IOU to the kitty, until we reach an ATM or cash
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Colette, Minneapolis, USA
||We track our spending
I just came off a marvelous trip to Alaska. As is
sometimes convenient, my traveling companion sometimes
paid for little things and other times I did. In order
to sort things out, we track our spending and often
make up the difference by treating the other to lunch
or dinner after we get home. It’s a great way
to recap our adventure.
Penny, Baltimore, USA
the trip's finances
When I travel with my travelling companion, we put
our money in a kitty together each day and one person
(we each take turns) pays for the days expenses as
we go along. Whatever is left over goes in next day's
kitty. We also keep a small notebook to log the items,
just to have an idea of what things cost at the end
of the trip. It's always fun to do the calculations
over the last meal, which is always a big splurge.
This system has always worked well with my various
Christine, Montreal, Quebec
||Who handles money best?
The best bookkeeper in the group takes care of the
money. When my friends and I travel to Paris on our
annual trip, one of the first things we do is establish
a kitty from which all of our common expenses are
paid. We assign one of us to manage the money and
every couple of days or so we determine whether we
need to replenish and how much each one needs to contribute.
It saves us from individually having to pull out our
wallets to pay for incidentals, subway tickets, museum
fees, meals and other things we do in common. It works
best if there’s a separate kitty wallet or pouch.
Eleanor, New York City, USA
||Pay for your own drinks
We, too, keep a kitty but only one of us drinks wine.
So, to keep things fair we pay for the wine separately
(per person) and then pay for the meal from the kitty.
Evelyn, Aberdeen, Scotland
||How much are you prepared to spend?
Be upfront. Establish what your personal budget will allow for in dining out. I once travelled with a pal whose Idea of budget was very different from mine. Clearly she had a lot more money to spend than I did. Since then I've always brought this situation up with any potential traveling partner long before we set off.
Lily, Fredricton, Canada
Travel for three or more...
||Two is cheaper than three
Actually, I often travel with two other ladies. I
guess that makes this travel for three! Our adventures
began in 2003, when we enrolled in a three week study
abroad trip to Greece. Being nearly twice the age
of our other travel mates, we choose to share a room.
We were referred to by our professor and our new Greek
friends as 'the ladies. Our one rule was that we would
let each other know if we needed some 'alone' time.
Each of us, during the three week trip, carved out
some 'alone' time and it worked quite well for us.
We hardly knew each other at the beginning of the
trip, but became great friends in the course of three
weeks. We have continued to travel together and have
a never ending list of places we'd like to explore.
Once we've decided where we'd like to go, we each
buy different travel guides to research our destination.
We have a system where each of us comes up with a
list of the top five things we'd like to see or do.
That allows us to do some advance planning. We are
currently planning our 4th annual trip together. I
highly recommend travel for three. It's economical
and you can take off and do something by yourself
without feeling like you're deserting your travel
partner. Plus it's triple the fun!
Jeanie, Radford, USA
||Match your travel style
Several ways that I have traveled successfully with
two or more include: If you don’t know the person
very well find out their travel style. Do they like
to see and do as much as possible, or do they like
to get to a place and settle down for awhile? I think
this difference in travel styles can make or break
Sharon, New York City, USA
||Learn from your travel pals
When I travel with a friend or two we divide the time
and take turns being the guide for the day.We each
lead the others and do the thing that we most wanted
from the trip. For example, on a trip to Crete, one
day I led the group to the Palace of Knossos and the
Archeological Museum, another day my niece took us
to the beach and out for local food, and a third day
my boyfriend took us for a drive over the mountains.
I find that i enjoy following others to do things
I wouldn't have thought to do and still get to have
plenty of time to focus on my most important destination
Cynthia, Massachusetts, USA
||Negotiate your differences
The most important thing is to voice each others assumptions
at the planning stages and negotiate the differences.
Such things as taxi or public transport, meal times
and time alone seem essentials to discuss. A niece
of mine travelled in a threesome and each place they
stopped they rotated around a twin and a single room.
So they knew they would have a room to themselves
each third stop.
Grace, Sydney, Australia
||Share and compare ideas
Sometimes my friends and I just like to do different
things on a given day when we are travelling together.
If we have ideas on what to do or where to go for
the next day, we share and compare beforehand. If
we are interested in the other person's idea, we join
up, otherwise we arrange to meet somewhere later at
a set time. That way we can still do what we each
want to do, and then join up later to share our separate
Sherry, Dijon, France
be a bunch of grapes!
We often travel in tandem with my husband's extended
family. On an early trip my father-in-law taught us
that 'we don't have to hang around like a bunch of
grapes'. I find the philosophy comes in handy when
travelling with only one other person as well. A little
independence does wonders for a travel-buddy relationship.
Sometimes, if we're not in a city, we even rent two
cars. We each go our separate ways for an afternoon
and meet up later with exciting stories to tell.
Joni, Toronto, Canada
||Be in charge for the day
When traveling with one or more people, it helps if
each person takes a day for accepting responsibility.
During this period of time, they are responsible for
planning everything (including meals) - even if it
is deciding that group will rest and do nothing. It
helps ease the 'complaining' aspect, since you would
prefer that the others not complain about what you
choose on your day. It shares the responsibility of
the holiday, and if each/several of you plan the same
thing, well done - go back - and enjoy it again.
Amelia, Los Angeles, USA
||Do what you must do
I don't travel very often with friends but when I
do it can be scary. I really enjoy being the leader
of the pack but that does not always work. A small
tip that my best friend and I share in our travel-making
decisions is 'attachment.' We share how 'attached'
we are to pursuing a certain activity. If someone
is VERY attached then we usually do it. But if we
are not so attached, the subject remains up for discussion.
It helps us communitcate better without getting into
disagreements. I hope this tip helps other women.
Jamie, Yuki, Japan
||How is everybody doing?
Periodically have an evening check-in. How is everyone
in your group doing? What problems are arising? What
is working or not working? If this is done routinely
every three or four days (or when someone needs it),
it is a good time for people to talk about what’s
bugging them and it prevents resentments or building
Sharon, New York City, USA
More travel for two -- tips and advice
We Need Alone Time and Transportation Compromises
Handling Money and Travel for Three
Travel with Hubby and Travel with Strangers
Wise Women Advice
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